Category Archives: Marital Status-How To Background

How to determine if the guy or person is really married. Includes searching property records and seeing the signs of cheating. Includes using reverse lookups so singles can check out their date.

Verify Their Marital Status-Part II

Overview
Are they married but pretending to be single? Once you confirm you have their real name,  see if a spouse is listed through property records or the age/relatives lookup sites. Then Google both names together to see if they’re still married or recently divorced.

No one single database is complete. So look through a lot of them before you conclude the person is unmarried!  Obviously, if you find a possible wife you can skip a step and go to verifying their current marital status.

Great give aways include recent wedding announcements, gift registries and recent obituaries. I love obituaries because they often lists the names and marital relationship of those in attendance.
(ex:
his son John Tilden and his wife, Golda from Florida).

So let’s have some fun.  It’s time to pull off Santa’s beard and expose the fraud.  Enjoy!

Index
1. Verify You Have His Real Name
2. Check Property Records For A Spouse
3. Look For Female Relatives that Could Be A Spouse
4. Google Both Their Names Together For Current Marital Status
5. Googling For Divorces
6. Check Free Databases For Divorces or If “The Woman Filed For a Name Change

Step 1:  Verify You Have His Real Name (a married man may give you a false one)

Skip this step ONLY if you’re absolutely sure he gave you his true name, i.e. he’s an old high school flame or you’ve seen his passport, credit card or driver’s license.  Otherwise, TRUST BUT VERIFY.

Does his cellphone number, username, address or email address all pull up some other guy? (a different photo or different name)

To find out, see Reverse Searches: Verify by Their Contact Information (Consumer-SOS)

Same goes if he claims to be a doctor, lawyer or CPA, etc.  To practice their profession, they must first be registered with the appropriate Occupational Licensing Board in their state. So if he’s given you a nick name, be sure to check a Directory Of Nick Names for his proper name.  For example: Dick=Richard, Ray=Raymond, Bill= William. Then look him up using both names. If he’s not there, it could mean he’s being untruthful about his name or profession or both.

What If All I Have Is Just His Name And Nothing More?
If you have his name and nothing else, (no username, email or cell # from text messages, etc.) verify their name by matching it with other things he’s told you about himself.

For example: If through the age & relative lookups you can’t find “Adam Rosen” age 53 in Georgia, the:guy is either new in town, or probably lying about his name, his age or both. The age & relative lookups are extremely comprehensive! They list almost everybody. (Far more so than the online Whitepages.)

Step 2: Check Property Records For A Spouse
If a woman is on the deed. Don’t let him tell you it’s his sister. Jump to Steps 4-6 and verify!

Background Homeowners To See If A Spouse Is Listed As Co-owner (50 States & DC)
6 out of 10 people own rather than rent, which means you can find or verify the names of over a hundred million homeowners with just their name or an address. Results may also include their middle initial, the home’s value, or that a
spouse is also on the deed! If you can’t find them, it could mean they rent, it’s in their spouse’s name or they gave you a false name. It could also mean they live in NYC, or you have the wrong address or city.
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Step 3: Look For A Possible Spouse Listed Among His Relatives
The age & relative lookups in Group 1 and 2 below show who may be related to the guy and how old they are.  A woman within 12 years of his age could be a sister, a roommate, an ex spouse or his current wife. Write down any female names that fit the bill. Sometimes a woman’s age won’t show up even when the guy’s does. But you can get her age by doing a separate search for her as well.  

Try at least one lookup from both Groups 1 and 2.

Group 1 (Relatives)

Intelius.com
Enter their name and state they live in for their age and possible relatives. For more relatives, mouse over “View All”.  Even if it may miss a relative, you’ll often see other valuable info about them such as where they worked or went to college.  This can help you identify them among false leads when Googling for  common name.

US Search.com (National Database)
Has age, places they’ve lived and possible relatives.  For more relatives, mouse over “View More”.

Group 2 (Marriage Records)

Moose Roots Marriage Records
Can look to see if they were ever married and when, but it’s hit or miss as the database is far from complete. But if you see a spouse, you at least know who she is if her name pops up in a deed or other listing. Not good for showing divorces.

FamilyTreeNow (Marriage)
Enter a full name and can also enter in a state if you get too many hits. (first try without a state since you don’t know where else they’ve lived or where they may have got married).
Hit enter, then scroll down on left to FILTER RESULTS. Choose either Marriage Records, Divorce Records or Living People…  (Misses many who are either married or divorced, but it’s worth looking at.)

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Step 4: Google Both Their Names Together For Current Marital Status

If they’re listed as husband and wife, try Googling their names with divorce decree. Or try searching for hits only in the last year.

Google Search Combos For Marriage (start with broad searches and refine if too many hits)

Sam Karen Gruberman
Sam Karen Gruberman Georgia
Karen Sam Gruberman Georgia
(switched the names around)
Sam Karen Gruberman Georgia wife OR married (use capital OR to get either “wife” OR “married”)
Sam Karen Gruberman Georgia wife OR married (Google Set to Past Year Only)

Limit Your Results To Past Year Only
Click on link above and replace names and state with the ones you’re looking for. Or learn how to limit Google searches within the last year. See #6 of Google Like A Pro (Quick Tips & Tricks).
And if last month’s obituary shows they’re married, but he insists he’s not, make him cough up the divorce certificate!

Step 5: Googling For Divorces
Start with broad searches and refine if you get too many hits.  See the examples below where I search with and without quotes.

Searching with their name and divorce might work.  Or it could pull up every divorce attorney in town! Here’s how to bypass those annoying ads from divorce lawyers and still get the meat!

“FIRESTONE v FIRESTONE” Richard (use quotes, may pull up several of his divorces)
“FIRESTONE v FIRESTONE” Richard Susan
“FIRESTONE v FIRESTONE” Richard Susan Georgia (here limited by state, but could omit divorces in other states)
Pontrelli v Pontrelli Barrie (Rare last name, no quotes needed)

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Step 6: Check Free Divorce Databases or If “The Woman Filed For a Name Change

https://www.juralindex.com/
For divorces, enter in the last name of the person and then search by state and case name. Using the last name as a case name should pull up divorces and name changes. For uncommon names, omit the state. You can always add it later if there are too many hits.  OR try searching by plaintiff or defendant or all. Then hit VIEW CASE DETAILS.  Records may go back to before 1995.

Note: For all you google experts who use Google to search within the bowels of other websites: It’ a waste of time in this case! Google won’t puck up records that are there which means you’ll be misled even more if you find nothing. You’re better off going to the websites directly.

Related Links:

Reverse Searches: Background Them By Old Contact Info

Ever Google a common name like “Jason Smith” to find there’s thousands of them?  Or suppose you want to learn more about Carol Jones, the hot vendor who moved into the office next door?  Google lists over 100 millions hits for her.

So which one is the pretty blond without a wedding ring?  And is she really single?  Or does the wedding ring vanish, but only when she’s selling to her mostly male customers?

There are many reasons to do a background check.  For example: If Carol is single, just knowing what she does for fun could put you miles ahead of the competition.  Imagine her surprise when she hears you talk about her one true passion.  Which of course is to see the Special Olympics Unicycle Ukulele relay race. (Now I don’t recommend you lie.  But if you truly have similar interests, you’ll feel a lot bolder when you talk to her!)

So how can you find out this info?  And do it quickly without false leads?

By the way, this blog is a short add on to People With Common Names-How To Background Them and to the blog  Age, Relatives & Middle Name: The First Stop In Any Background Check.  In those blogs, I spoke about finding people by their unique identifiers, such as their age and middle name.  But  I assumed you only had their first and last name to work with.

Sometimes you have more.  For example: you could have their old or current email address, an old or current cell # or a prior home address. You might even have an old user name of theirs from when you met them on Match.com.  Obviously you waste nothing by plugging this into Google.  For more on that see Google Like A Pro (Quick Tips & Tricks).

But even before Google, you’ve got a powerful tool you may not have thought of.  Through reverse lookups, you can cut to the chase and find your exact Carol Jones in an instant.

Reverse Lookups (Searching By Contact Info)
When Googling  for common names, you know from my other blogs that it’s best to have at least a middle initial or maybe even a state where they once lived.  From there you sift through all your hits.  Usually you will find your target.  Usually.

But with reverse lookups or Reverse Searches, you can shortcut this process.   Key is finding the right FREE websites where you can plug in whatever piece of information you got.  The best of these instantly give you more information than what you started with.  They don’t take forever to load; and they don’t string you along.  Key is that they hone in on your subject, not someone else with the same name.

Well, guess what?  I just gave you these links both above and below!  And they’re organized based on the type of contact info you’re most likely to have!  Emails, phone numbers, addresses and user names.

For example:  this link in Pipl.com searches based on my email address of g_firestone@yahoo.com.  Now click on a few of the links and you can find my middle name, my Twitter and Facebook accounts, my age, my profession, etc.  What’s more, the hits you get are linked directly with this email address.  So you know you got the right Graham Firestone.  Not that there was any doubt.  I’m the only Graham Firestone on the block. OR in the world!  But it matters when your name is a common one.

For phone numbers, you could get similar hits to the above.  Or you may just find the invaluable middle name.   But Google whatever you get for even more results.

Note that you can always plug an email, phone number or user name directly into Facebook or other social media.  Sometimes it even works!

So stop lollygagging and start searching!  And don’t forget to comment if you have thoughts, feelings or suggestions.  Doing so makes me feel warm and fuzzy. And I like warm and fuzzy.

Good luck!

Reverse Searches

Emails Phone #s
Photos/Images Street Addresses
User Names/Dating Profiles Websites/Intellectual Property

 

 

Are They Married? Find Out Without Even Their Last Name!

The best investigators know three things that are secrets to everyone else.

1. Where To Find The Free Links
Most people don’t have a clue.  But that’s easy.  The free links to do online background checks are right here!

2. How To Search The Free Links
But free links are just the beginning.  Second, you’ve got to know how each website works.  If you search with the wrong format, or get too specific, chances are you’ll find nothing of value.  So it’s always best to test out each website with a common name.  A name that you expect to get hits for.

If say, you don’t get any hits with a name like  “John Smith”,  it means the website is bad or you’ve entered the name in the wrong format.   For example, was the name to be last name first?  Do you have an extra space, a misspelled word or did you perhaps leave out or include a comma?  Every website has different rules for searching.  Look at their examples, if they have any.

(Less Is More)
If you can, just enter in a first and last name and maybe a state.  Also, be sure not to include too much information, even if there’s a field for it.  That’s right.  Leave out middle initials, race, age, location, etc. Too much will exclude valid records that could be missing these things.

3. How To Piece It All Together
But to really excel, you’ve got to know more than how to use a bunch of links.  The best investigators leverage the facts they know to find out the facts they don’t know.  And from there, they string together these facts into a story.  This story is all about the person’s character and dependability.

This is what we’re after.  This blog will show you how to string the facts together into a story.  And from that story you can decide if the person is trustworthy.  In other words, you’ll know better if it’s safe to date them, safe to hire them, safe to rent to them, or safe to let them into your home.

Finding Marital Status With Just A First Name  & Phone #
Here’s how we searched for someone, what we found out about them and how we put the facts together.  (All names, locations and ages have been changed to protect the guilty!)

Yesterday “Susan” wanted me to background a guy she met on a dating site.  She didn’t have much for me to work with.  Just a phone number from his texts and that his name was “Sam.”  Up until now, Sam and Susan had never met each other.   But Sam had great ambition.  He told her that for their first date, they’d have a great night out and then go back to a hotel for sex.

Susan was less happy about this than Sam.  But she was curious why Sam opted for a hotel instead of going back to his place.  So she asked for my help with a background check.

What We Found
With just Sam’s phone number, we were able to confirm Sam had given us his real first name.  After all, some people don’t.   We also found Sam’s last name, his middle name, the names of Sam’s relatives, Sam’s age, and Sam’s current and prior home addresses.

From there we took a look at his property records, searched for criminal records, found tax liens on his home and finally, we Googled him.  Turns out, Sam had good reason to meet Susan at a hotel.

Sam was still married!  Indeed, according to at least one stat, 30 percent of all “single” men online are lying about their marital status.  For more see The Top Signs The Guy Is Married Or Cheating On You.

How We Found It: An Anatomy of A Background Check

First Stop: Reverse Lookups
As I mentioned earlier, all we had was a first name and phone number.  But it could have been a first name and an email address, or a first name and a dating profile name, or a first name and a physical address.

With reverse lookups, you can confirm his first name or learn he’s giving you a false one.  The reverse lookups for all of these can be found at Consumer-SOS.com.  But having the links is not enough.  Here’s how we used them!

Our first stop was OKcaller.com.  What we needed was a name behind the phone number.  If that didn’t work, we’d go to Spydialer.com, and finally, we’d try our luck with Google or the less effective reverse lookup sites.  (OKCaller is the best because it even works with most cell phone numbers.)

With OKCaller we hit the jackpot!  We found Sam’s full name was Samuel Gruberman.  We also got his home address in Cartersville GA!  Sweet!

Second Stop: Sites For Age, DOB, Relatives & Where Else They’ve Lived
So we now knew an address, a phone number and that his name was Samuel Gruberman.  At this point we could have jumped straight to Google.  But then we’d be flooded with too many hits.

After all, there’s got to be a lot of Samuel Grubermans.  So we had to find a way to know we had the right person.  And that meant using special databases to find distinguishing things about him.  (For more,  see People With Common Names-How To Background Them.)

Knowing Sam’s true age, the names of his relatives and his middle name would be helpful.  So our next stop was to the free sites to find their Age, DOB, Relatives & Where Else They’ve Lived.  Our goal was to look for any Sam or Samuel Gruberman with the same Cartersville address.  With such, we hoped to find other information including his age and relatives.

The age lookup sites not only found him, but listed his age as 61.
We also were able to learn his middle name was Raymond.  So now we had his full name, Samuel Raymond Gruberman.  (Later we would Google this along with Samuel R Gruberman.)

The age lookup sites didn’t stop there.  They also listed the various cities and states where Sam lived and included his relatives.  Now Sam was easier to identify than ever.

One of these relatives was a woman named Karen Gruberman.  Later we clicked on the links for Karen Gruberman and found she was also 61 (i.e. probably not his sister.)

So we continued looking for records of Sam Gruberman.  Within each website, we looked down each page for near duplicate records.  In other words, we looked for those records that were mostly the same but would give us additional information about him.

We also looked at other age and relative websites.  If the page within a site was very long, we used Ctrl F to search for his middle name or his address.  (Command F for Macs).  The goal was to find the old that we knew, coupled with the new things we did not know.

We paid attention only to the records that were clearly about him and not some other Sam Gruberman.  For example: we looked for his name with the Cartersville address or his name with the states he’s lived in, or his name with the same set of relatives.

And our knowledge of Sam Gruberman grew and grew,

We now knew his age, his date of birth, the places he’s lived, his address, his prior addresses, his prior phone numbers and his relatives.  Some of these sites even listed the companies he founded.  We checked those out too at the GA Secretary of State.  However, we found no additional names or addresses that might be connected to him.

But one mystery remained.  Just who was Karen Gruberman?  We knew they were both 61.  Could she really be his sister?  Doubtful they’d both be born in the same year.  Was she an ex wife?  Or worse, a current wife?  We were at an impasse. There was nothing else the age lookup sites could do for us.

Third Stop: Free Criminal Records & Bankruptcy Records
At this point we wanted to know some hard facts about out quarry. Was he a child molester?  Was he ever arrested?  Did he ever file for bankruptcy?  Armed with his full name and address, our next step was the free bankruptcies and arrest mugshot records.  But we found nothing.

Fourth Stop: Free Property Records
We knew his name.  And we knew his address.  Was he rich?  Did he own the property or rent from his mom?  We were determined to find out.

So our next stop were the free property records.  We could have searched by his address or by name.  But a name search was easier.  And the property records spoke volumes.  Karen was listed as co-owner of the property!  We also found their home once had IRS and GA tax liens against it!

So we now knew Karen co-owns the house with him.  This smelled a lot like a wife.  But how could we be sure?

Fifth Stop: Googling Names, Addresses & Phone Numbers
Now it was time to Google!  The goal was to find only recent information about him.  More to the point, we needed to know if Sam and Karen were still husband and wife.

Googling Only Recent Events
So we Googled Sam and Karen Gruberman together (just the words in red, no quotation marks).  But there were so many hits!  What we needed was the here and now, not ancient history.  So we set Google to show only the returns from the last year.  To see how this is done, see Google Like A Pro (Quick Tips and Tricks). 

Previously I had set Google to give me 100 returns per page so we could scroll down the pages quickly.  Now it was paying off big time.  On the second page (hit # 200), we found an obituary for Sam’s Dad dated 9 months earlier.  The obit was amazing because it listed all the relatives who attended.

It read “Mr. Gruberman (SR) is survived by his wife, and son, Sam Gruberman and wife, Karen of Cartersville, GA,

WOW!  Good ole Sam is still married!  Karen was his wife 9 months ago.  And Karen is his wife now.  If they were really divorced, why is she still on the property records?  No wonder Sam wanted a hotel.  Bad Sam!  Next time at least fess up you’re still married!

Related Links
Google Like A Pro! (Quick Tips & Tricks)
People With Common Names-How To Background Them
Age-The First Stop In Any Background Check
Is The Crime Still Online?

Google Like A Pro (Quick Tips and Tricks)

Whether you’re shopping online or doing your own background checks, you can get swamped with too many names, too many pages and too many false leads.  To avoid this, here are 8 search tricks that will forever change how you Google!

This Blog Will Show You How To:
1. Google search 100 hits per page instead of 10 per page
2. Search for an exact phrase using quotes
3. See old versions of a website (Google Cache)
4. Search for key words once on a web page (Control F, Command F
for Macs)
5. Exclude Google returns that contain unwanted words
6. Search for recent results in the past week, month or year
7. Search within a particular website
8. Search For Images (Google Reverse Image Search).

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1. Search Faster With 100 Returns Per Page
First let’s permanently set Google to give you 100 returns per page instead of ten.  If you’re not sure this is a worthwhile thing to do, try Googling for John Smith and mugshots.  As you can see, at just ten hits per page, you will be searching for a lifetime!  How much better to search 10 times faster and with 10 times the returns on a page!

For more searches per page, you can customize your search settings.  First, under “Search Settings” and “Google Instant predictions”, click on “Never show Instant results.”  This deactivates any suggestions on how to search for things. (Something only marginally helpful when you already know what you’re looking for).

Next, slide the results per page from 10 to 100.  This makes Google microscopically slower, but with today’s super fast Internet speeds, who cares! (Note: this won’t work unless you first turn off the instant results feature above).

Now, click “Save” at the bottom and start searching!  The same results are now at a 100 per page instead of 10.  Think how much time you’ll save with this trick alone.  Say goodbye to the page by page nonsense!  200 returns takes up 2 pages instead of 20.   And if it’s not there, you simply move on to your next search.

 

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2. Search For An Exact Phrase Using Quotes
Most people never think of using quotation marks around names or phrases.  But if you Google John Smith and mugshots (without quotes) you get over half a million hits.  To narrow your search, let’s put the name in quotes so it looks like this: “John Smith” mugshots.  Now your search results are cut down to less than 46 thousand hits.

The great thing about quotes is that you can target exact phrases, including names.  With the example above, you can see the quotes allow you to pull up hits where the words John and Smith are right next to each other.

But why stop there?  Let’s see what happens when we add the middle initial R.  Amazingly, the search for “John R Smith” mugshots returns a mere 56 hits.

Now let’s refine the search to “John Richard Smith” mugshots.  Here you get only 25 hits!  So with a full name in quotes, even a common name becomes uncommon.  And with the power of quotes, you can find your mark easily.

Finally, lets add a city to narrow the results even further.  With “John Richard Smith” mugshots Atlanta, we’ve reduced half a million hits to five!

Use Triple Quotes For Even More Exact Phrases
This is a secret Google won’t talk about. But if you want to make absolutely sure you get Graham Firestone and not Graham Moclayus Firestone, search like this “””Graham Firestone”””

Pros & Cons of Using Quotes

Pros
Quotes are great when you know the exact phrase you’re looking for.
Example: “post office most wanted”
Example: “John Richard Smith”

Dangers Of Using Quotes
Quotes can exclude valid results because the words were not next to each other.  This matters for example, when you have no idea how the name will be listed, i.e. when searching for wedding announcements or obituaries.  For example: Quotes around “John Smith” would exclude an obituary about John R Smith or a wedding announcement for John and Clara Smith.  Likewise, quotes around “Clara and John Smith” could exclude valid returns with “John and Clara Smith”

Conclusion
If you know the exact phrase or phrases you’re looking for, put it in quotes!  You can also narrow your leads by adding a city or other information not in quotes.  Be careful of using quotes when you don’t know the exact word order you want, or you want the key terms to come back with a middle name, the name of a spouse or other information that would otherwise be excluded.

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3. See Old Versions Of A Website (Google Cache)
Ever go to website to learn it’s changed or no longer there?  This is especially frustrating when you know the site refers to the person you’re looking for.  The good news is that Google’s cache function can show you an earlier snapshot of the same site.

Suppose you’re looking for Graham Firestone and Google pulls up a site where he’s nowhere to be found.  So what do you do?
First, use your back button to revisit the list of Google hits where you first found the site.  Notice a green link directly under your website.

Click the down arrow at the end of the green link and click Cached.   Now you are on a snapshot of the site before it changed.  For more see Search tricks including finding really old websites on the Wayback Machine.

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4. Search For Key Words On A Web Page (Control F, Command F for Macs)
So you’re at the top of a webpage over 100 screens long.  Now here’s how to quickly find the name you’re looking for.  PC users can search for a key word within the site by holding down the Ctrl button on their keyboard and also pressing the letter F.  Mac users can do the same thing with Command F.  When the small search box appears, simply enter John or Smith or whatever single key term you’re looking for.

Each time you hit enter it will take you to where that term appears on the page.  Some browsers will even highlight your search terms so all you have to do is scroll down for the yellow or green highlights.

Note: the find function is a far cry from Google.  So do not enter more than one term at a time.  Also, the single will find the plural as long as there’s no spelling change. (Attorney will find attorneys, but not vice versa.  A search for fly will not find flies).

A good practice is to search for the least common part of the name.  For example: Say your searching for John Zanzibar and you find yourself at the top of a super huge webpage.  While on the page, first do a search for Zanzibar.  There’s probably only one.  But a search for John will probably take you to a lot of the Johns you weren’t looking for.

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5.. Exclude Google Returns That Contain Unwanted Words
Now let’s talk about excluding the words we don’t need in a search.
Notice a search for John Firestone gives you over 12 million hits.

But Google has a way to exclude unwanted words by using the minus sign.  Here’s how it’s done.  In the Google search box, first enter the terms you want as usual.  Then, after your desired search terms, you’ll want to enter the terms you don’t want in your returns.  Simply press the space bar and add the minus sign along with all the words you don’t want.

For example: John Firestone -tires has 8 times fewer hits because now it’s not puling up Firestone tires.

John Firestone -tires -dr has even fewer hits. (691,000 instead of 12 million).  But before you exclude, take a look at your returns for words you know are irrelevant.  Open a few to see the pattern. Otherwise you may over exclude and miss something important.

Using Quotes Combined With The Minus Sign
Now watch what happens when you add quotes such as below.
“john firestone” -tires -dr

As you probably knew, you get a lot fewer returns.  This is because the word doctor is not relevant unless for some reason you believe your subject was a doctor or connected to doctors.

Previously I tried this search and to my surprise I got more hits instead of less.  So always pay attention to what happens when you add search terms or use the minus sign.  You should get fewer returns not more!

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6.  Search For Recent Results In The Past Week, Month Or Year
Ever want recent news, a recent weather report or the most recent scoop on a person’s whereabouts?  With Google, you can pull up returns from the past year to even the past hour.  Just type in your search and press enter.  Then click on Search Tools up top and click on Anytime.

At this point, choose the past hour, the past day, the past week, past month or past year.  You can even use the Google calendar to customize your search to the last 2 years.

Now you can search the most recent how to links, the most recent phone numbers, the most recent developments in the law, the newest products on the market… (you get the gist.)

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7. Search Within A Particular Website
Sometimes a website won’t let you search it, or it requires you sign up for it.  At other times  it’s so badly organized, you simply can’t find anything.  This is particularly true with government websites.  Even if they have a search engine, they’re often useless!

The good news is that you can still search many of these sites with Google’s search within site feature.

First, I enter the searches in quotes or no quotes, then a space, the word “site colon and the name of the website, no space after the colon. To see how it works, just click on the link below.  Note this only searches within the ancestry.com website.

“David Firestone” site:ancestry.com

The applications here are endless.  Now you can search almost any  site with the power of Google and all it’s search capabilities!  Use this to shop for products, gather evidence of product infringement, search for company announcements or look for people!

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8. Search For Images (Google Reverse Image Search)
Google can also find when someone’s image appears in different places online.  This can be helpful in tracking where they’ve been or what they’ve done.  For more on this see Free Links That Detect Online Copying (Consumer-SOS.com).  See also Reverse Image Search.

Related Links
Age-The First Stop In Any Background Check
People With Common Names-How To Background Them
Is The Crime Still Online?
Are They Married? Find Out Without Even Their Last Name!

Who’s Cell Phone # Is This?

Ever want to know who that unknown caller was?  Or what if you could do a background check on your new date, or the guy at the convention, but all you have is their first name and cell number?

Well, join the club!  This blog is all about reverse cell phone number lookups.  The goal: Find a first and last name associated with the number along with other identifying information.

Why Background Someone By Their Cell Phone Number
The fact is that landlines are rapidly becoming extinct.  The typical reverse phone directories which did so well with landlines, work absolutely horrible with cell phone numbers.  So these days, they’re virtually useless.

But why bother looking up a cell phone number in the first place?  So what if you get a name and address?  Often you have their name anyway.  Right?

The name behind a phone number is useful for many  reasons.  For example:  Suppose your dating “David Smith” but a reverse lookup  shows the number belongs to Susan Smith?   Just who is Susan?
Is she his wife?  An old girlfriend?  A roommate?  His sister?

Or suppose instead of Susan Smith, the name that comes up is David Fogelman?  You then remember that on all your dates, David always paid for things only in cash (you never saw his ID or credit card).  And come to think of it, he was never available on holidays or weekends.

Could your David Smith really be David Fogelman?  If so, why would he hide his last name from you?   Maybe David is doing so because if you knew his last name, you’d also know David is married.

Up until recently, free cell phone lookups were grossly inaccurate.  You could never trust if the name was correct and so there was no reason to jump to conclusions.

But that’s all changed thanks to OKCaller and SpyDialer.   Between the two of these you have at least a 50% chance of getting the right person.  Plus you can sometimes get an address or photo allowing you to do a full fledged background check!

Think about it.  With just a cell phone number you can lookup the property they own, their true age, their marital status, who they live with, their criminal records and more!

Usiing OKCaller.com To Find A Full Name And Address
OKcaller is a tool for determining if the number belongs to spammers or telemarketers.  But it’s real value is it’s ability to find the name behind both private landlines and cell phone numbers.

Simply type in the number without any spaces like this: 6785879228.  Often you’ll get a full name associated with the phone number.  (depending on the # you’ll get a last name first, or first name last)  Sometimes you’ll even get a physical address.

If you do get an address, be sure to check out the video Reverse Address Lookups For Marital Status, Who Lives There & More.  To truly make use of what you find, you’ll also want to watch the Sleuth For The Truth video Google Like A Pro (7 Tips & Tricks).

Note: I discovered this site after making the video Who’s Cell Phone # Is This?  But you’ll still want to watch it for reverse lookups with Spydialer.com and Google.

Usiing Spydialer.com To Hear Their Voicemail, Get Their First Name and Possibly See Their Photo
When you enter a cell phone #, Spydialer gives you 3 options:

1. Hear their voicemail;
2.  Lookup who owns the phone #; or
3. See their photo.

The photo is the least reliable but the other tools are quite useful.  If you select voicemail, you’ll be automatically routed to it and the owner will never know you called.  Instead, they’ll see a callback number from Spydialer.  Note that the voicemail option won’t appear if the number is a landline or voice over IP like Magic Jack.  Unless it’s a cell number, the voicemail feature will be grayed out and unclickable.

So let’s do a name lookup with my friend Will Hooper’s old phone number (678-592-2100).  You can see that “Bill” is found to be the owner.  Close enough!   Often Spydialer will retrieve a first name and sometimes a last name. You can then Google the number and the name to find out even more.

Now let’s try this with a landline or voice over IP #.  (678-587-9228).  Note that you have only two options, and cannot check the voicemail.  A name lookup reveals  “Graha”.  It’s obviously mine.

But look what happens when you click on photo lookup.  It actually pulls up my Facebook page and my full name is on display.

Here are some other quick ways to find who’s behind a cell Phone #.

In both Facebook and Google, search like this:
(404) 123-4567
404-123-4567
404.123.4567
“123-4567” Graham  (try either a first or last name)

Related Links
Are They Married? Find Out Without Even Their Last Name!
Reverse Lookups-Find Their Name By Their Contact Info
Google Like A Pro (Quick Tips & Tricks)
People With Common Names-How To Background Them

Top Signs He’s Married Or Cheating

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Did you know that 30% of the men on dating sites are
really married?  If you do the math, you’ll see you’re chances of being a homewrecker are close to 1 in 3!

You’d think a married man is easy to spot.  But such is not always the case.  One reason is that their excuses get better and better.  They’re some pretty slick men out there.  And they’ve been playing this game a long, long time.

Sadly, another reason they can get away with this is because many  women see the signs, but in their hearts, they just don’t want to believe them.  These women will ignore the advice of their friends, their family and even their own gut instinct.  They accept his excuses because the truth is simply too heartbreaking.

That said, I have compiled the biggest, most important signs that the guy is either married or cheating on you.  These signs are absolute show stoppers. You should be ready to bolt if you see any one of them.

SIGN #1: He Tells You He’s Married!
This sounds hard to believe but it happens all the time. You meet a great guy and he’s upfront that he has a wife.  Or he tells you so only after a few dates.  To keep you interested, he’ll claim he’s separated from her or getting a divorce.  And so you’re impressed with his honesty.  The problem is most of it’s a lie.

This is the cheater’s perfect cover story.  He’ll tell you:  “My wife’s crazy.  She doesn’t understand me like you do.”  Or “I’m separated and just waiting for the divorce papers.”

And so you’re the women on standby.  (All the time.)  It’s a great excuse to keep you hanging on while he does whatever he likes to do.  And meanwhile he’s still married and dating every woman in town.

He can’t see you right away?  It’s the wife’s fault of course.  He’ll say something about the children and custody and anything else he can think of.   And you’ll hate his wife for being so cruel and unreasonable, even when none of it’s true.

And if it’s all true, you just married his wife. Your highs and your lows, now all depend on a strange woman you never even met.

What If I Want To See Him Anyway?
If you’re determined to see him before the divorce is final, make him at least show you the proof he filed for divorce.  Anyone who’s in the middle of a divorce should at least have the court papers.  And be sure it includes a case filing number along with his name.  Better yet, tell him “sayonara” until after he’s really divorced.  And have him mail you the divorce certificate.

Sign #2:  A Tan Line On His Ring Finger
The tan line or indentation on his ring finger is a dead give away
that your man belongs to someone else.

Ask him point blank “You’re married aren’t you?”  RUN no matter what he says.  There’s no good outcome here.  Either he’s married with no intention of divorcing his wife; or he just decided “not to be married” and you’re the rebound girl he can use until he gets his act together.  This guy is bad news.  Wait for his divorce certificate.

Sign #3: He Never Invites You Home (Or It’s Very Rare)
So, he’ a traveling salesman; the home is under construction; he’s embarrassed how messy it is; his house has bad memories for him; or he likes your place so much better.

If he doesn’t invite you in, dump him!  And if he rarely invites you, drive by his  house and stop by unexpectedly.  Bring  a cute gift for cover!

Is he nervous when you drop in?  Does he have tampons under the sink?  Is the toilet seat down?  Does he even let you in?  Take a look around the place for signs of another woman.

Sign #4: He Pays Only In Cash
Sure.  He hates debt.  He has bad credit.  He got mugged and lost his debit card, or he’s an importer exporter with lots of cash on hand. OK.  But just maybe, he  doesn’t want you to see his real name.  Or for his wife to see the strange bills on his credit cards!

To verify his name, playfully show him your photo ID and ask to see his too.  Later Google him based on his full name, age ,state and county where the ID was issued.  And don’t forget to do likewise with his address.

In casual conversation, ask him the names of his relatives.  Does he have brothers or sisters or an ex wife?  Get a few names if you can, and Google them in the same search with his name.  For more on how to background him, See The Sleuth For The Truth Video Google Like A Pro.

Sign #5: He’s Never Available On Weekends & Holidays
(Every Date Is At The Very Last Minute)
This is sure sign he’s married.  But even on the off chance he isn’t,  you’re still second fiddle.  Sometimes he’ll actually make a date with you to show he can commit, but then has to cancel it as something else came up.   If there’s really no wife and kids, (hard to believe) you can bet he’s still playing the field.  The colorful excuses don’t matter.  The reality is he’s committed to other people and you come in last.  They get him during prime time.  You get the 3 AM slot.

Sign #6: He Never Introduces You To His Family, Friends, Colleagues or Children.  Or you meet only a select group of such.
Loose lips sink ships.  He’s either a sociopath with no connections, or he’s leading a double life where he doesn’t want you to know about them.  And he certainly doesn’t want them to know about you.  At best you’re the black sheep, a lapse in discretion, an embarrassment.  At worst, he’s a married man and you’re his unwitting adulteress.

Sign #7: He Avoids Seeing You In Public Places
(Or Certain Public Places)
Instead, he prefers going out with you to remote places, or he always wants to stay inside and just be with you alone.  Another twist: When he goes out with you, it’s always with group of other people so it looks casual or like you’re just one of the gang.

Watch out if he hates public displays of affection or feels uncomfortable when you suddenly snap  a photo of you two together.  Yet in private, he’s a different man: He’s affectionate, passionate and really digs you!

This is a man who’ s definitely hiding something.  A man who for some reason is afraid to be seen with you.  Forget his excuses. What’s the pattern here?

Sign #8: You Only Get To See Him When He Wants You To
Cheaters have busy lives and they hates surprises.  You are the outsider, his secret life, the person he must squeeze in among his existing obligations and commitments.  Your impromptu call for a surprise date will go unanswered or it will be put off till later.  Or he may agree only to suddenly cancel.  You call him but never seem to get him. (The pattern is that he always has to call you back.)

Look out for his inability to commit in advance or his constant canceling of your plans together.  (Every guy knows not to cancel on your birthday.)  If your meetings always have to be prearranged and have strict time frames, this too is a  bad sign.

Sign #9: Weird Phone Habits

The examples below show he’s sneaky or concealing something:

  • He’s Talking or Texting You and It Abruptly Ends (The wife may have walked in)
  • He Never Picks Up Your Calls in the Morning or After Work (He always has to call back later)
  • Never Answers His Phone in Front of You but does look at who’s calling (could be the wife or another girlfriend)
  • Your Name & Phone # is Not in His Cell Phone or, Your Number Shows Up on His Phone as “Office” or with a Name Not Yours.
  • His Voicemails To You Are Overly Formal and Super Professional
    (for example, he calls you by first and last name, or the message never reveals any intimacy such as why he’s calling).
  • He Has Several phones,  or Cell #s, which he won’t give to you.

Sign  #10: He Never Talks About His Family Or Prior Relationships
He’s a blank slate with no past.  After all, the less you know, the fewer lies he has to tell.  And with the names of his relatives, you could find out he’s really married!  Tactfully bring up your family and prior relationships and ask him about his own.  Does he squirm? Does he change the subject or look uncomfortable?  Any guy who won’t open up is dangerous, even without a wife and kids.

Sign#11: He Pretends To Be Such A Super Dad
(So He Never Has Time To See You except when he wants a quickie)
Is he always breaking dates because of his little girl’s dance recitals?  Or is he always helping her with homework or dealing with family emergencies?  Shame on you for being upset.  How dare you be suspicious!  What a good dad he is!

But the real reason he can’t see you is because he has a wife or another woman on the side.  Being the superdad is a perfect excuse.  If the man cares for you, he’ll make the time for both you AND his family.  He did it once before when he got married.  He can do it again.  Unless of course, it’s all just a smokescreen for him while he tends to his wife or plays the field.

Sign 12: He Won’t Friend You On Facebook
Not everyone has a Facebook page.  But most people do.
And it’s a real danger sign if you’re dating him and he won’t accept your friend request.  He’ll give you some excuse that his Facebook page is only for family or for business or only for his class reunion friends.

But what’s he hiding?  A family?  A double life?  Is he afraid you’ll tag him in a photo of you and him in a romantic setting?  Or are you just not that important to him?  Men should be proud of their dates.  If he’s serious about you, he will want to show you off to others.  I’m sure he’s has plenty of excuses.  Do you believe them?

Sign 13: He Immediately Takes A Shower When He Gets Home
Some men just like being clean.  Others don’t want you seeing strange hairs or smelling another woman’s perfume.  If the shower thing is new, watch out!

Sign #14: He Fails The Smell Test
Trust Your Gut. Trust Your Girlfriend’s Gut.  If you’ve come across any of these signs, you can bet he’s got a wife or other girlfriends.  You are the side dish, not the main course.  He might be able to explain away some of this sneaky, flaky, wacky and erratic behavior.  But if you believe it all, perhaps you just don’t want to know the truth about him.

Related Links:

Sleuth For The Truth Videos
(YouTube)
Learn how to do your own background checks.

Reverse Address Lookups For Marital Status, Who Lives There & More (Video)

Free Background Checks (Consumer-SOS)
Find the free links to find out if someone is telling the truth about their criminal records, their age, their property, their name, who they live with and sometimes, even if they’re married.

Free Georgia Background Checks (Consumer-SOS-Georgia)
Same as above but specific to the state of Georgia.